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Tuesday, December 27, 2016

Foundations of Freedom 5/5 | Life in the Kingdom


Re-Listening to Dr. Bob Hamp's Foundations of Freedom courses. Starting over at lesson 5/5, Life in the Kingdom. These are my notes from this go-around:


People get stuck trying to do God's job or trying to get God to do out job.

"Lord Humble me..." well that part is your job.

You can't change yourself, God does that. But you can participate or not participate in that change.

It's like Wind and Sail. The wind can pass by us with lowered sails and we never move. We need to lift the sail, but God does the moving.

There have been abuses in the church of the following concepts. These abuses are often the confusion between a man-centered kingdom and a heave-centered kingdom.

We live in a spiritual realm and natural realm at the same time. Both must be addressed correctly.

No matter how much we grasp Thinking Differently, the kingdom of God will always be higher and qualitatively different.

We are created in God's image, but He is not created in ours. There are things that are true about us because they are true about Him, but there are things about him that will never be true about us as created beings.

We are no longer citizens of this present world, we are strangers here. We are seated (authoritatively) in heaven.

"Your name is written in heaven" - Who you are has been chiseled into the material heaven is made of.

Your nature has been disconnected from Knowledge and connected to LIFE.

We are learning about to tap into the new nature and let go of old pathways.


So we will look at what's our part and what's God's part in the following areas:

1. Lordship (not man's lordship over man, but submitted to Jesus as Lord)

When we surrender our will to God.

This doesn't mean: I will try hard to do the things he's telling me.

God always does the hard stuff:
  • I surrender my will.
  • God does the changes.
Let's understand the difference between our "Will" and our "will about some things".

Your Will is your mechanism for deciding, not the decisions. With that Will you decide stuff. When we surrender our Will, we're not just giving up some stuff, we're giving all of it up. We use that will to make decisions about (relationships, money, drugs, etc.). When we say: "I'll surrender my will about money and schedule, but not relationships and drugs," we haven't surrendered our Will at all.

Surrendering our Will means that we actually surrender our entire mechanism for deciding.

Offering a ride to Jesus and saying "I'll go wherever you say to go" is not Lordship. You still have the decision at any given moment.

Rather, getting into the passenger seat and saying "Jesus, you drive" is surrendering our will. You no longer have any decisions to make.

We often think that we are to use our Will to choose good stuff and avoid bad stuff. The foundational problem with this is that this is an exercise of our Will through the Tree of Knowledge. We don't use our will to choose good vs. evil, we surrender our Will entirely. We don't have it anymore.

What is the proper use of the human Will? SUBMISSION

When we accepted Jesus we were saved by him and we will be delivered through him too. Sozo (saved) actually means (Saved, Healed, and Delivered).

Responding to hearing saved us, continuing to respond to hearing heals us, and continuing to respond to hearing delivers us.

*38:55

There are three types of bondage:
  • Lack of Clear Definitions
  • Bondage to Self
  • Obstacles to Deliverance
If you start with the Obstacles you will miss the whole healing/freedom that you were intended for.

Choosing God's voice will always move you closer to your true self.

*40:00

2. Transformation (refer also to Levels of Change)

Our part is to understand the change we're engaging in (Romans 12). Our struggle is not good versus evil, but Life versus Knowledge.

The source of our actions must change for lasting change. You cannot be the source of your own transformation. You cannot logic/reason your way through transformation.

Change is not about me trying harder and doing better, but changing my source so I can change my perspective (which changes how I think/act/feel).

Am I allowing my flesh (mind/will/emotions) to empower the transformation process, or am I surrendering to the spirit (hearing and responding to God).

If all goes according to the Spirit's plan, over time, more and more of His Spirit takes over and less and less of your flesh.

BUT

If you are trying harder to act on your knowledge of good the transformation process CANNOT take place because you are strengthening the very thing that needs to die.

You cannot change by changing the content of your mind. He's not after Compliance and Obedience, He's after Surrender.

You cannot Surrender to The Law. The Spirit requires an intuitive sensitivity, that requires training and it's ok if you blow it. He's not after perfect actions, he's after surrender. Training requires failure, it's not merit based.

He's not after you "getting it right" he's after you "learning how to walk".

Consider an infant learning to walk. The infant stumbles and falls on the first attempts. No parent goes: "Only three steps huh, is that all you got?" The parent says: "Wow, he walked!"

This is because we as parents understand that our job is not to get the child to run a marathon tomorrow; rather, our job as parents is to raise him up so that what he's known coming into the world changes daily until he matures and he's ready to take over our inheritance and take over the business of His Father.

God has no expectation that you will get it right in the beginning. He expects that when you fail, you will turn to him (the source) and allow him to do it again in you.

"Psst... Hey Darrell." Autopilot is about correcting us when we get off course. Autopilot is off course more than it's on course. But the correction keeps us moving to our destination.

Common Fallacy: Death sets us Free


We believe that we will continue to progress with up and down struggles, and death will set us free. If we believe that, we believe that "my death can do for me, more than the death of Jesus".

"I'm trapped in this earth suit and someday I'll be set free. Because I'm not dead yet I can't be free."

Jesus has done for you more than you know he's done.

Baptism of the Holy Spirit

The Holy Spirit is a member of the godhead. He is the same person we've been speaking about the whole time. He is God. He's the one who saved you, and he can heal you and deliver you.

We're not here to do something FOR God, however, we're invited to do something FROM God through you to the world.

God doesn't want you to run ahead, he wants you to wait, receive, hear, and then go in response. The great thing about the original baptism of the Holy Spirit is that they didn't know what that was, and therefore, they couldn't try to "help God" make it happen. They couldn't engage their knowledge of good.

*I have the T-Shirt without the experience. I have experienced some gifts and giftings and speak in tongues... but I don't have the experience of the Holy Spirit in my daily life, and haven't felt in him many many years. I need to "wait" on Him, expectantly.

This is not a topic to be studied but a person to be engaged and embraced.

*1:07:03

We come to Him not with what we think we need him to do, but what we need (Power, His Fruit in our lives) via His HolySpirit.

Don't try to act better on your Knowledge of Good, rather, wait on Him to empower you. Wait on Him to fill you today, and then again tomorrow, and again more the next day.

The Holy Spirit is to bring LIFE and transformation not rules and regulations.


3. Authority

Power and Authority are related but not the same. Authority is delegated to us.

Power is the ability to accomplish something, Authority is delegated power.

God has the Power (we never will). We have His Authority to use His Power.

Stop and ask God what He's doing. But when you know it's time to use your Authority, don't ask it to change, use your Authority and command it to change.

When Jesus commanded things, they happened.

However, "in the name of Jesus" isn't a tag that gives you license say whatever you want and have God back it. Using God's name in vein, is using God's name to tag something that He didn't tell you to do.

We must be submitted to Him and hear Him before we can act or command.

If you say something but don't trust/believe it will happen, you are not in Faith yet. You cannot take authority out of fear or authority over human will.

God will back it if He said it...


4. Spiritual Warfare

This is the central issue of Spiritual Warfare. 2 Corinthians 10 says we tear down speculations and lofty things against the knowledge of God.

The enemy is not likely poking holes in your tires, but he is there talking to you when you see the flat tire.

The central issue of the enemies' warfare is the voice of deception. It's not what's in front of you, but which voice you will listen to when you are faced with what's in front of you.

In the very worst moment of your life, Satan is waiting to inform you how you should see that moment and what's true about you because of that moment. And so is God.

Key: "Lord, you talk to me about this ___(flat tire, broken fence, bad thing)__. Tell me what's true about this and what's true about me in this moment."

Key: Agreement. Spiritual forces are empowered through agreement. What voice are you agreeing with?

The spiritual world is empowered by whatever you are agreeing with. What voice are you listening to?

The enemy uses what we see and tries to put a filter on your heart to get you to see it his way. God is there saying: "Ask me what I see?"

Children of Israel send 12 spies. 10 come back thinking of themselves as Grasshoppers. 2 come back thinking of themselves as giants.

When the children of Israel were under attack, but turned to God, the enemy died. So who was under attack? If the enemy died in the end, the enemy attacking was actually under attack and didn't know it.

It's about perspective.

If we look at that moment and see the danger, the danger holds the power in that moment.
If, however, we look at that moment and ask God how He sees the moment, God's power holds the power in that moment.

  1. Speculations - Thought processes that are rational in nature, based on evidence. But God is bigger than the evidence available to your senses. The enemy wants to get your senses to agree with his interpretation.
  2. Lofty Knowledge - Satan can't fight God. Spiritual warfare is the only battle you win by surrendering and waiting. Surrender doesn't mean "giving up" it means surrendering to whatever God says (that means waiting on Him to hear him).
God writes the rules, so anything the enemy does to oppose God ends up causing the enemy's loss.

When our eyes tell us we're losing we're probably winning more than we know.

Since the enemy cannot fight God, he will fight God's knowledge in our minds' eye. He just wants to get us to fear something or want something more than we fear/want God.

The enemy wants us to lift something higher in our heart than God.

  • We always win when we surrender.

So, broken or whole, "right or wrong", that's what I'm thinking about today,

Darrell W.

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Monday, December 19, 2016

Foundations of Freedom 4/5 | Hearing God


Re-Listening to Dr. Bob Hamp's Foundations of Freedom courses. Starting over at lesson 2/5, Hearing God. These are my notes from this go-around:

Hearing God

When we change the things we've been focusing on, often times the things that that have been holding or harming us will change without our focusing on them.

The presence of God (oven) is what transforms us (dough into cookie). You connect to the source, by Hearing God. Faith comes by hearing.

If a plane flys by and you stop and hear it, what caused the plane's noise? The plane, not you. You just stopped to hear it.

"I am your person"....

God wants to talk to me.

Spirit to spirit exchange. He may not be trying to give us "information/knowledge"... heart to heart... bypassing the mind. Often what we receive is a reality, preverbal... preconscious.

Your spirit then translates that truth through your mind/will/emotions... it may come as an image, word, sense... etc.

Does that word from God align with the written Word (Bible), and does it bring the fruit of the spirit (love, joy, peace, etc.)

When you hear "You can leave" does it fill you with peace, love, and joy, or does it fill you with vengeance, anger, heaviness?

*30:00

Use The Word as a filter:

  1. Does what I'm hearing/seeing/sensing line up with the Word of God and the Nature of God as it is revealed in the Word.
  2. Does it produce, in you and the people affected by it, the fruit of the spirit in Gal 5?
    • Flesh: The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, and debauchery; idolatry and sorcery; hatred, discord, jealousy, and rage; rivalries, divisions, factions, and envy; drunkenness, carousing, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
    • Spirit: But the fruit of the Spirit is:
      • love
      • joy
      • peace
      • patience
      • kindness
      • goodness
      • faithfulness
      • gentleness
      • and self-control.
  3. Does it set people free?
    • Not necessarily from the circumstance or suffering, but from the power of that circumstance over you.
    • Sometimes Paul got free from prison, sometimes not so much. But the Word of God set him free in those circumstances to have peace, love, and joy.
2 Tim 3:16: All scripture is God breathed. The word scripture refers to "documents". This book is God breathed.

Hebrews 4:12: The Word of God is living and active, sharper than any two edges sword. The spoken Word is alive. The written word is dead until the breath of God is breathed into your heart through them.

The Word and the Book are not the same thing. The Book contains the words of God, but that is not the same thing as the spoken Word of God.

Language is a way we describe a thing, but it is not the thing. We say "car" but car doesn't come out of our mouth. Rather, a mental picture is communicated to another person who knows what car means. But they have different pictures unless they both know what that car looks like.

But when God speaks, the things he speaks come out of his mouth. When God says PLANET, a planet comes out of his mouth into existence.

If God says: "Peace be still", what comes out of his mouth is PEACE in a package that is deliverable and if you will tune into it, it will come inside and change you.

When we reduce the Word of God to a paragraph and a verse, we miss the point. The Word of God becomes a reality in and to us, if we'll allow it.

It's like when you say: "You just had to be there..."

Nobody else can experience your experience. You cannot left brain understand the Word of God. You cannot experience the Word by reading... but reading can help you access the Word which can bring you to the experience.

The Word of Faith is in your mouth and heart... only then is it an experience.

"I love you... and anything that stands in the way of me loving you, even if it's you, I will overwhelm it..."

When we tune in to hear his voice, and all we want is information or correction, He might do that... but what He really wants is to say "I love you" and for that to impact you.

The Word of God is the expression of his heart and intention toward you since before time.

Col 1:17: And he is before all things, and by him all things consist. 
Heb 11:3: The World which was made of the Word of God.

An atom is made of Quarks, quarks are made of energy/vibration/sound. E=MC2. Energy equals Matter times the speed of light squared. But if energy could be slowed down, it becomes matter.

God's Word is literally holding everything together.

The further things are from God the more things fall apart.... What we want to do is get a better knowledge of good so that we can get things right and get back to God.

The further we get from His Word, the more things break down. You cannot make yourself right or start doing right... you just have to get in tune with His Word, and those things will be made right without your trying.

If things are falling apart that is not a sign of your "failure" it's a s sign of your distance from Him.

He is saying: "Come back to me, and I'll bring peace where there was anxiety, health where there was sickness, soundness where there was confusion."

*57:50

Confession


We think of confession of "confessing sin". The word Confession comes from a compound word in the Greek. HomoLogos.

  • Homo=Same
  • Logos=The Expression of what's in God's heart.

Confession is to say what God is saying. If God is talking about your sin, and you confess sin, then you are confessing. If God is saying you are Righteous, but you are talking about sin, that it not confession.

He convicts the world of sin and righteousness, not just one of the other.

Confession is when we hear, believe, and speak/act.

Here's where that goes wrong. What if we confess not what God's saying, but we want. "I want to be rich and have a Cadillac." We are confession our desires and passions and wants. But if that's not what God's saying, it will only lead to frustration.

A Prayer Offered In Faith Requires Hearing God


The reason most of us don't have our prayers answered, is because we don't take the time to hear God before we pray. So we're just praying out of our desires, not out of hearing.

A prayer that's offered in faith CANNOT be offered in faith unless it came from hearing.

Praying our motives doesn't count and doesn't work. God won't do magic for you. Prayer is not a magic formula to get what you want.

Check your motivations.
  • "I got up early for you and I have all these things that I need to hear from you about..."
  • "So you got up for you, huh?"
Don't go into prayer with a motivation, a list of things to pray about, just go in to hear. God may have an agenda that has nothing to do with you or your circumstances. Just go in with no expectation other than what He may want to talk about.

God is doing something in the world and wants me to come cooperate with Him. He won't bless MY agenda, but he'll bless me when I get on His agenda.

If power comes to my house through the in wire, to the stereo and back the out wire. If you snip the out wire the power will never manifest. If we study and hear our brains out, but never return it to Him, there's no completed circuit.

You do this through prayer back to him, and through you to others.

If it doesn't go through your life, the power coming to you can't be drawn on. Life comes to me, inhabits me, and go through me. It's a circuit.

"I only do what I see my Father do, say what I hear my Father say..." but then he said "stretch out your withered hand." He completed the circuit, and it manifested.

Sabbath is the frequency on which God broadcasts. It's those moments when you are still that he can speak. If you are constantly running, busy, listening to radio... He may try to interrupt you at a stop light, as you are going to bed or waking up, or in the middle of the night...

"In the stillness, in the quiet place..." God speaks in a gentle whisper.

Don't try to "think what God is thinking"... more like when you hear a plane or car going by... just hear what God is saying. It might just be a phrase or a single word, an image, a sense of something...

Listen.... Be Still....


So, broken or whole, "right or wrong", that's what I'm thinking about today,

Darrell W.

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Tuesday, December 6, 2016

Foundations of Freedom 3/5 | Kingdom of God


Re-Listening to Dr. Bob Hamp's Foundations of Freedom courses. Starting over at lesson 3/5, Kingdom of God. These are my notes from this go-around:


There were two book ends of Jesus teaching:
  • The Kingdom of Heaven/God is like...
    • We often hear this as instructions on "how we should do earth"; but Jesus said The Kingdom of God is like...
  • For those who have eyes to see and ears to hear...
    • We often hear this as try harder to believe; but this actually has to do with seeing things from a new perspective, hearing a new way, having a new way of thinking (process/perspective) that causes you have new thoughts (content) afterward.
    Jesus had a single message during his ministry, with multiple ways it plays out. The gospel Jesus shared on the earth may not be the gospel you've heard all your life.

    You've heard: "You are a sinner. Jesus came and died on the cross so you can be saved from your sins and go to heaven when you die." This is truth, and this is a gospel, the Gospel of Atonement... but it's not THE gospel.

    Consider: None of that had happened yet when Jesus was in his ministry. Yet, his ministry worked without his death and resurrection having happened yet. Jesus shared the gospel and healed them all, yet had not gone to the cross yet. So what gospel did Jesus preach?

    Matthew 3:2 - Repent for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

    We see this message as "Straighten up, wait until your Father gets home..." but that's not what repent means.

    Before the earth or universe ever was, the Kingdom of Heaven was. Everything that was God, everything he is and is in his Heart to do or be is all that was.

    The Love of God is so immense, that there it would never stand in the face of anything that would harm the object of His Love, even if the thing harming the object of his love is the object of his love.

    The Power of God operates through the Love of God.

    So when Jesus steps into the planet, the power and love of God operated through him. Out of the compassion/love of God, flowed the power of God.

    The Peace of God is a tangible part of His atmosphere. If you simply breath it in, it will overpower anything causing your harm/stress.

    We tend to think of "righteousness" as the things we should do. But, the righteousness of God is simply the way he designed things to work/function/operate.

    We tend to think of the Kingdom of God coming as "won't it be great when there's no more...." but in fact there is so much of what God is that those things that won't be, won't be because they burn away in the presence of what IS.

    LIFE existed before living things.

    We are to be his Re-Presentatives, to be his likeness on this earth, to be to the earth what He is over The Kingdom.

    *28:11 - Repent Defined

    For too long we've applied self-effort and religious pressure to Repent.
    • Repent does not mean to turn and go the other way, but that is the fruit of repentance.
    • Repentance does not mean to change the content of your mind. Replace one thought with another. I was going to sin, but I think I won't.
    Repent: Metanoeo: To think differently afterwards -- Thinking changed after being with HIM.
    • 3340 metanoéō (from 3326 /metá, "changed after being with" and 3539 /noiéō, "think") – properly, "think differently after," "after a change of mind"; to repent (literally, "think differently afterwards").
    We change the way we see/think because we become aware that the Kingdom of God is AT HAND, right there in front of you, at arms length, just reach out and take it, it's here already, right now.

    Don't change the content of your mind, change the way you think/see. Your perspective. Once you change the way you think, you'll think differently afterwards.

    If you Practice His Presence, continually being aware of the fact that The Kingdom is here, now, with you, in you, in your grasp; you will see things from a new perspective and your way of thinking will be different; which will cause you to then think differently afterwards.

    The Problem Jesus Came To Solve

    Genesis 2:9: Two Trees, The Tree of LIFE & the Tree of Knowledge
    Jesus did not say: I came that they might do better, and do better abundantly.
    Jesus said: I came that they might have LIFE, and LIFE abundantly.

    Life is not measured in on/off, yes/no, life/death...
    Life is measured in quantities, you can have more of it or less of it...

    Sickness, disease, pain, disorder, brokenness (bodies and minds)... are signs of a lacking, in part, of this substantive source called LIFE. The answer to all healing is an inflow of LIFE.

    Genesis 3: Describes The Fall

    If I loose my glasses, I have two problems. I lost my glasses, but I also lost the source of finding my glasses.

    Sin is no-where mentioned in Genesis chapter 3:7. The fall:

    • Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths.

    The results of disobedience were eyes opened to knowledge.

    They lost their source, LIFE, and they had to work out of Knowledge (a lower form of knowing/being).

    His knowledge of evil showed him something was wrong, but his knowledge of good was insufficient to take care of it.

    We lost LIFE through Knowledge, and we try to return to our source through Knowledge.

    Science and Religion both fail us because they are based on Knowledge, and not LIFE. Their solution becomes the very problem they are trying to solve.

    The Pharisees knowledge of good was the enemy of LIFE himself.

    Jesus said to the woman at the well, in Samaria, "If you knew who I was, you'd ask and I'd give to you living water,.... then he addresses her source... ".

    The woman said:I perceive you are a prophet, searching her knowledge of good for an answer.

    Jesus' invitation was for her to surrender to his lordship.
    She perceived religion/religious debate, better behavior.

    I cannot know enough good things, or avoid enough bad things, to become the person He made me to be. I need LIFE, and more and more of it.

    *1:00:09/chapter 3

    Jesus came to do for you what you cannot do for yourself. No leper can decide to be whole, Jesus had to do it for him.

    The fulfillment of the Kingdom of God is about the power of God expressed to you; then in you; then through you to others.

    Your knowledge of good/evil will not give you power, only data. Power comes through LIFE.

    The Kingdom of God is like a Radio

    You were created to be a receiver. If you are not hearing/receiving the Kingdom you are not:
    • Plugged In
    • Turned On
    • Tuned In
    • You can have a quiet time, seeking the knowledge of good, and get nothing but a religious exercise.
      • Or
    • You can have a quiet time, seeking the Presence of God; plugging in, turning on, tuning in.
    What are you doing, right now?
    What are you saying, right now?
    What are you intending, right now?

    The Kingdom of God is like an Oven/Microwave

    The kingdom of God has it's own power and presence and imposes its nature on whatever is in its presence.

    However, if there's a mixture of people in his presence, we can all cook at different rates/speeds.

    So if I want change, I need to put myself into His Presence.


    So, broken or whole, "right or wrong", that's what I'm thinking about today,

    Darrell W.

     

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    Monday, November 28, 2016

    Foundations of Freedom 2/5 | Levels of Change


    Re-Listening to Dr. Bob Hamp's Foundations of Freedom courses. Starting over at lesson 2/5, Levels of Change, also on Vimeo.

    I took extensive notes with PowerPoint charts on 10/31/2013:
    I will take whatever notes I see but not duplicate my previous notes. These are my notes from this go-around:
    The problem is not how hard you try, it's that you are using the wrong tool for the wrong job. Sometimes you try really hard and it actually gets worse. A misguided solution, forcefully applied, makes it worse.
    *Note: This happens when "Christians" try to use "Conversion Therapy" on the LGBT people who themselves want change. The Church often tries to give them a better knowledge of good, which doesn't bring any lasting healing to anyone.
    If you've ever had the thought: "It works for everyone but me", this is your class.

    When we think of Levels, we think linear progression of trying harder and getting better... that's not what we mean by levels.

    ***

    Diapers & Potty Training

    Early Stage - I change the diaper, it get's messy, I change it, it get's messy. Constant change but nothing's ever changing.

    Potty Training - Once this change sets in, it over-rides the previous type of change, rendering it un-needed.

    Each level of change has dominion over the lower levels. Once you are potty trained, diapers are no longer needed at all. The type of change changes the quality of the entire experience.
    ***

    Levels of Change

    Environment (L1) - The lowest level of change.
    "If only I could get a better job, new church, new family... "
    If we believe changing our environment will change us, we are already in bondage to that belief.
    Circumstance cannot dictate Freedom, or the lack thereof.
    ***
    Behavior (L2) - The second lowest level of change. Connected to Think/Feel.
    "I'll be free if I stop/start this behavior...." The most you try to change, the harder it becomes.
    At this level you can accomplish some things, but not the thing you're hungry for.
    This is the level of your experience. I'm doing fine, feel great, think I'm well.
    You do something stupid, you think "stupid", then you feel stupid. Once this happens, what are the odds you'll do something smart? Not high, because that sets up a self-feeding cycle.
    My focus organizes my life - the cycle I set is based on my focus.
    Using your mind to control your behavior you will fail.
    Behavior (act/doing) controls/affects your environment.
    ***
    Capabilities/Limitations (L3) - The definitions of our heart about what we can/cannot do/think/feel, convincing us that it can never be different.
    This is less measurable.
    There is a thermostat in our heart. If you think anything about you cannot be changed, but it's counter to what God said about you, you have believed a lie.
    As you push and push to change behavior, it gets harder and harder until it runs against the lie (thermostat) and it pushes down on the behavior to align it with the belief.
    ***
    Beliefs (L4) - Expectation
    Many churches issue a "statement of belief" about what they do/don't believe. Those are not beliefs, those are thoughts. Language that is conscious and expressible to others is based on thoughts.
    Thoughts reside in the mind and is conscious, can be described, and can be changed.
    Beliefs reside in the heart and is not conscious, cannot be described, is hard to change, is felt. Most people are unaware of beliefs until you suddenly become aware of them. They are usually hidden, but they determine your experience.
    As a man thinks in his heart (not mind) so is he. These hidden beliefs determine everything you do/think/feel.
    In one session, Dr. Bob handed a depressed woman a list of verses. He didn't ask her to read them and believe them. Instead, he asked her to let God read them to her. She suddenly snapped a new belief that forever over-rode her previous beliefs in a moment.
    It's not important to change WHAT you believe, it's important you plug into a new SOURCE of Truth.
    One young man said to him that he was so glad that his dad left, because when dad came home he was angry. If he wasn't angry we walked on egg shells to keep him from getting angry. The atmosphere of the house changed when dad left, for the better. 
    *** Hm... That's interesting... Reminds me of my relationship with my oldest son. I wonder if he'd say the same about me... Both boys said that I'm Raphael the Ninja Turtle, because he's always angry.
    Too often we treat God as though he were angry with us.
    *49.33
    ***
    We know things we dont' know. We know "God loves us". That's a thought, 99 times out of 107, that's a thought. But in our heart we believe: "Yeah, God wrote John 3:16 so he's stuck with it, but he doesn't really like  me".

    We don't like us, so we impose that feeling on God.

    We then have experiences consistent witha  grumpy God, which reinforce that belief.

    We talk about spending time with Him in the morning, but the picture we have of him is so incorrect that we aren't drawn to Him.

    Do you ever say of your LOVE, "Uhg, I have to spend time with them today". But we say that of God all the time, "Uhg, I have to do my prayer time today".

    The disciples loved Jesus and enjoyed his presence. Crowds were drawn to Him because he was likable. When you see God and His love for you, you'll be drawn to him.

    A Bennie Baby is worth $0.25 in materials. The retailer sells them for $5.99. Someone once paid $1,000.00 for a specific one on eBay.

    What's it really worth? Trick question, depends on who you ask.

    If you ask the manufacturer, $0.25.
    If you ask the retailer, $5.95.
    If you ask a little girl, $1,000.

    Evolutionary biologists would say a human is worth about $1.39 in materials.
    The culture could say you are worth who you are followed by.
    Jesus said you are worth his life/death/resurrection. He puts no value on your higher than his highest.

    When you recognize what God says about you, and you begin to agree with it in your heart... that Truth will set you Free.

    *1:04:59

    Identity (L5)- is the only area we have NO control over. We cannot change at this level, but that's good news... more on that in a moment.

    In the church we don't talk about some things enough, but we talk too much about other things, poorly. One of these frequently but poorly discussed areas is "sin".

    We often define Sin incompletely as a behavior/thought/feeling or a set of behaviors / thoughts / feelings. So we deal with sin by trying to change our behavior / thought / feeling.


    * Trap One:

    Because we miss-define sin as something I did or thought or felt but shouldn't have; so we try to solve this by altering our behavior. Trying to solve sin by altering behavior is going back to the dirty diaper/environment level of change.

    When we bring God our behavior, we bring part of the problem to the whole of God's solution. We take Tylenol for cancer.

    We go to the cross and say: "Thank you for the cross (dying for my behavior) and the resurrection (coming to life again to help me change my behavior)".

    "Jesus forgive me for what I did..." So you only get help for the past, not the present or future.

    But it's not after something happened, but before it happened, that we need help.

    Sin is FAR worse than bad behaving people.

    The problem is worse than you think.


    * Trap Two:


    Sin is the absence of God (who is LIFE) in the human soul. = Sin is the presence of Death (absence of LIFE) in the human soul.

    We search for things to make us feel alive (sex drugs rock&roll, but also ministry and doing good).

    Jesus didn't die on the cross because you deserved the death penalty for your bad behaviors...

    Jesus died on the cross to take what you have (death) and trade it for what he has (life)... It's changing the source of your being, not your actions and behaviors. It's not that there's something wrong with our behavior, but something wrong with US.

    Jesus didn't die for what you've done, he died for who you are.


    **About 1:20:00

    Three layers of opposition

    1. Demonic Oppression looks different in third world nations than it does in 21st century society, because the enemy attacks you at the area you are most vulnerable. We define reality based on things we can touch/see (material) and reason (intellect); therefore, you'll be attacked in the mind.

    "You're going to fail... it'll never work... you stink at his..."

    I've never woken up with hardcore rap in my mind. Why? Because it wasn't planted in me to bring back up.

    The enemy will start the song (I'm never, she never, I always, I'm so..), so that you'll finish it.

    *1:31:00

    "I never wake up with hard core rap in my mind, why? Because there's nothing in me that agrees with that. I'm not saying that music is bad, but that I don't listen to it so it's not in me. Demon's use what is in you and the more you agree with it the stronger it gets and the more you disagree with it they lose strength."


    2. The World. Systems in the fallen world that have an impact on how we perceive and what we believe. The circumstances of the Acrobats life worked in him to crush who he was born to be. One of those world systems is the Family.
    • The Family: was designed to transmit blessing for 1,000s of generations. But in a fallen world the family can transmit failure. "If my dad left me, it's difficult to believe God won't."
    • The Church. We set up systems in the church where the pastor is set up with an authority you can accidentally receive error by giving the church too much authority. The Church can be just as painful for people as any other system in the world.

    3.  Your Flesh. Your flesh is that part of you that you travel around in. Read Romans chapters 6-9 describes how Jesus sets us free from the flesh.
    • Old Nature/Sin Nature - The fallen sin nature we were born with. Your Central Processing Unit (CPU) is corrupted, corrupting the code.
    • Nervous System/Flesh - the body, circulatory system, nervous system, nervous system, nervous system... it's the system that feeds you back information about your experience. The enemy is working in the world around you to shape your experiences in order to shape your beliefs.
    • Spirit/New CPU- Your new CPU is installed, but your nervous system is still programing you based on it's current code, even after you get saved. You can get a new Central Processing Unit (spirit/CPU), but if you are operating on old code, you'll still get corrupted results.

    The Kingdom of God is like - An Amputee:

    Amputees experience Phantom Leg syndrome. The foot may be gone, but it still itches. The nervous system still believes that the foot is there, and it tells him it itches. Many doctors mistakenly prescribe pain pills for this, but that only reinforces the nervous systems' belief that the foot is still there.

    However, they had to learn to teach amputees to stimulate the new leg ending to start to train (re-code) the nervous system to see the new leg ending. They rub it with various materials...

    So it is with us, the more we wrestle with the Old Man we reinforce that he's still there/alive. Therefore, the solution for getting the New Man activated is to stimulate the new nerve endings of the spirit.

    You DO NOT have to read the bible, pray, go to church... none of those things are going to save you or make you a "better Christian". But if you do those things, they can help stimulate the New Man and help you focus on what is and not what it not.

    ****

    What's my #1 Take Away(*s)?


    So, broken or whole, "right or wrong", that's what I'm thinking about today,

    Darrell W.

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    Wednesday, November 9, 2016

    Foundations of Freedom 1/5 | A Kingdom Parable

    Re-Listening to Dr. Bob Hamp's Foundations of Freedom courses. Starting over at lesson 1/5, A Kingdom Parable. These are my notes from this go-around:


    What are you seeking?


    What you seek first, organizes everything else in your life? Jesus said it this way, seek first the Kingdom of God, and all these other things will be added to you.
    • If I seek first freedom from pain, pain will be in control of my life.
    • If I seek first freedom from poverty, poverty will be in control of my life.
    • If I seek first freedom from addiction, addiction will be in control of my life.
    • Are you seeking freedom FROM xxx (pain, addiction, hurts, behaviors...)?

    When you seek first the Kingdom of God, then the Kingdom has power over your life to deal with the things you need to deal with.

    Don't adjust the machine, until you've plugged it in. It needs a power source before you can adjust the settings.

    Seeking first the KOG is about plugging into the power source.


    How do we think about the things we think about?

    *3:40

    How you perceive the world around you, and what you do with what you perceive.

    As a man thinks in his heart, so is he. Not WHAT a man thinks in his heart, but AS a man thinks in his heart. The way that we think, is the way we are.

    Three levels of thinking differently

    1. Bad Definitions - *5:40 We were made for Freedom. Our soul pushes toward it.
      • If our definition of Freedom is wrong, we'll labor for the wrong version of Freedom.
      • If our definition of marriage is wrong, we'll labor toward the wrong version of marriage.
      • The truth that sets people free is not having our facts and doctrine right.
    2. ?? - Didn't catch points 2 or 3
    3. ?? - Didn't catch points 2 or 3

    We have a definition of freedom that is inaccurate, as the absence of something. If a prisoner thinks of freedom as the absence of bars, he's mistaken... because the bars got there for a reason.

    If we think of freedom as the absence of something, we're already stuck. We don't define absence as the freedom of something, but the presence of someone.

    Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. However far you allow the Lord in, your freedom increases. He'll go as deep as you let him.

    It's now what you know, it's how you know it.

    We're not looking to replace one thought for another, we're looking to replace the way you think.

    Freedom is not when we have our facts or doctrine right, it's when we have our facts from the perspective of God himself.

    Have you noticed that when God shows you something, it didn't change the circumstances, it changed you, and your perspective?

    God always gives us what we need, but not always what we think we want. Often times our problem is that we don't see what we need and want from his perspective.

    Kingdom Parable - The Parable of the Acrobat *5:30

    The kingdom of heaven is like an acrobat that fell off a wagon. A long time ago there was a troupe of acrobats, who was so phenomenal that they seemed to defy gravity itself. In this troupe of the greatest acrobats, there were the two acrobats greater than the rest, a man and woman. They fell in love, married, and had a child.

    The troupe and parents began to think about the genetics of this child, and what he would be capable.

    As they traveled, somewhere in the night, the baby fell out of the wagon... but no one noticed. The next morning, the mother reaches back to find touch him and finds him missing. She panics, the troupe panics, and they go back to find him. But after much searching, they cannot find him. Fear. Dread. Anxiety. Nothing, they cannot find him. They eventually had to move on, in great sadness.

    They did not know that a farmer and his wife were traveling behind on the road. They were far enough behind they did not know about the wagon train. They were close enough to find the baby before wolves or bears found him.

    Then fear set in the woman's heart, because she had given up hope of ever having a child. The farmer became a hard man, he would till the ground, do his duty, and that was all he needed to do. The woman would do her duty, but the home was cold. She filled with fear and anxiety, and he filled with anger and bitterness.

    They couldn't find the parents of this child, so they took him home. The mother is fearful, trying to make the best of it. The father is frustrated, but accepts the child, or her need for the child. He's not happy to have the child.

    • At the point the child fell from the wagon, was still an acrobat?
    • Yes. Why? Because his DNA and Birthright determine who he is, not the trauma of his birth circumstances.

    • When the farmer's wife lays him down in the farm house, is he still an acrobat?
    • Yes. Why? Because his DNA and Birthright determine who he is, not the trauma of his birth circumstances.

    The child becomes a toddler, his heart burns to climb to the heights of the furniture or curtains, he is fulfilling his DNA. But the mother is filled with uncertainty and fear. By age two he learns that if he lives out who he is, his mother pays a price. The father wanting to counter act his wife's fear, he gets angry at the child. He is now caught between the mother's fear and father anger.

    As he grows he finds new ways to defy gravity, but gets wiser about when/where he tries it.

    One day, he has found a way to counter balance and climb to the highest point in the house, the refrigerator. Just then, the mother and father both walk in. Mother in fear, snatches him down. Father in angry response to her fear, swats him. At the crescendo of their emotions, something happens in his little heart.

    "I cannot be me, it's too high of a price."
    • At that moment, was he still an acrobat?
    • Yes. Why? Because his DNA and Birthright determine who he is, not the turnings of his heart, or leanings of his soul.

    At ten, the farmer father takes him out to the field. His heart leaps at the new heights, trees, ropes from the barn, etc. The father redirects his eyes to the ground, "we've got work to do". The farmer also shows pride as he does good work.

    He learns that he can not only avoid pain by not being who he is, but reward by being a different version of himself.

    One day, he was distracted by the sights of things he could be climbing, his foot gets caught in a whole and he twists his knee. The farmer yells, "what's wrong boy?!", and he tries to pretend his isn't injured.

    Over the years, he gets older. He meets other kids, but the frustration expresses itself through his muscles in fights. He gets a reputation of being a violent young man.

    He's down at the feed store one day is a poster of an acrobat troupe. Something long forgotten leaps up within him, and he heads home to start the campaign to go see the acrobats. He wins the campaign, and they go.

    Afterward, he's interviewing the acrobats, asking questions. The farmer and his wife stand to the side. They notice an older couple their age, dressed like acrobats, but they didn't see them perform. They strike up a conversation.... and over the course of the conversation, they each discover the boy belongs to this older acrobat couple.

    As he comes back to the two couples, he finds out who he is the first time. All the struggles he's had all his life starts to take on whole new meaning. He's looking at the same things, but he's seeing them all with new eyes.

    Then it dawns on him, what had already dawned on the adults. He has a choice. He could go home and stay a farmer. Or he could go and pack and go with the acrobats. He realizes there is something about the acrobats that resonates in him as true.

    Jesus came to his own creation, but why? Did he come to educate, inform, correct? He came to his Father's sons and daughters, and to tell them they were not who they thought they were. I came that you might have LIFE, Your Life Abundantly. The LIFE he gave us in the beginning.

    So what happened next? *41:23

    He decides to go with them, and he's now lived with them a year, but he stinks at being an acrobat. He'd spent 17 years learning to farm, and kill his insides. He's starting to think he's not an acrobat after all. He doesn't know how to be like these other's who know how.

    Maybe I'm a farmer after all. Maybe I should just go back to the farm.

    Meanwhile, the other acrobat kids grew up in the shadow of the legend of the lost greatest acrobat. They want to see him fail, and they tease him.

    The father kept looking him in the eyes, telling him he loved him, and saying "if you fall, just get back up, no problem".

    Eventually, he found that he could hide and escape at the historians tent. He would go there and read. He discovers who his family is.

    Eventually, his mother treats his ankle, it's painful to move in those ways, but he is eventually healed from it. But once the pain/limp is gone, his excuse to not produce is gone.

    The stories in the historian's tent continued to entertain and distract until one day, he found himself in the story. The child of promise.

    One day he over hears the parents talking. The parents were so glad to have him home, they don't care if he ever swings a trapeze. Their just glad to have him back/restored to them.

    The acrobat child cannot believe they love him so much. He runs in and asks, how can you love me when I can't do what you want me to do? Why do you always send me to practice if you don't need me to be that?

    "Son, I don't send you to practice for me. I send you for you, so you can be what you are. I love you if you ever perform or not."

    He sees himself in his father's love for the first time. It makes him dizzy, confused... he wonders to the practice tent.

    For the first time since he was two years old, the feeling in his chest explodes in him. He goes inside the tent, everyone else is gone. He's not working or striving, he not working to learn what he should know, he just starts to play and have fun. He is just being who he is.

    A few months later, a crowd in watching as he is capable of greatness never before seen - because he learned to play and express who he is, instead of what he thinks he should be learning to do.

    ******************************************

    What hurts did you experience in life, and what lies did you believe as a result? What relationships or circumstances were you involved in that caused you to suppress your heart and true self, and what lies did you believe?

    • Deaconess: Set a better example for the other (older) boys!
      • Lie: I learned that I have to do the right thing, be responsible, even when nobody else does, even when I'm the younger one or under authority. I have to set the example for my under-reports, peers, AND, bosses. I always do the right thing, expected thing, publically.
    • I'm the oldest, Devin (middle) is my middle brother. He was a screw up who didn't try to live right or do right, I was always the responsible one. We were three years apart. We were at McDonald's on vacation and walked up to a counter, he gets offered free stuff by the lady at the counter, while I (standing there with him) have to pay full price.
      • Lie: It doesn't matter what I do or don't do, I will always pay full price, always have to work for my share.
    • Starting very young, I learned that girls would pay attention to me and make me feel good physically and emotionally.
      • Lie: I would seek women's attention and approval, and reject any that didn't give it, or gave it but I didn't believe them. It became a need. They needed to validate me, constantly to keep up. When they eventually tired of the constant need to reassure my fragile self, they'd eventually reject me. Or, if I felt I wasn't do well in their presence, that I couldn't get that validation from them, I'd reject them. Or, if I got that validation, but didn't believe or trust it, I'd reject them.
    • Event(s) - Unknown: I learned that I'm not OK. There is something wrong with me, and I don't know what it is. I can't place it. I'm an outcast, odd, not normal. Maybe it was the spiritual visions and dreams, maybe my "nerd" side, but I always felt like a round peg in a square hole.
      • Lie: You are NOT OK, be what they need you to be, but don't be you.


    Darrell W.
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    Monday, October 24, 2016

    Addiction sucks - Dr. Pepper is just as dangerous as alcohol


    Addiction sucks because of what it's a fight with your own body and mind. The substance of your addiction is irrelevant - the behavior patterns/thought patterns are the same. I've gone through the same patterns with Dr. Pepper as I ever did with Alcohol, Pornography, PillPopping...

    I had one guy in an online AA meeting try to tell me it was rude to compare Dr. Pepper or Chocolate to more serious addictions.As I see it, it's just as dangerous.

    Some of the things I've done for Dr. Pepper:

    Tend to dangerous excess -  I'm an addict by personality. I tend toward excess in everything I do. I once had such a craving for Dr. Pepper that I bought a 36 pack on a Sunday afternoon and with the exception of 5-6 to the family drank 30 between Sunday evening and Thursday morning. I had an onset of gout by Friday that lasted two weeks. That was one incident. What if I did those same things over and over and died by 38? Would that be any less dangerous that Alcohol?

    Hiding the purchase - Even though we were on a "budget" and I knew money was tight, I'd go to a gas station and instead of paying at the pump I'd buy a large soda, some food, and put what I figured the tank needed in gas. I'd pay for it inside so it was one purchase. I really enjoyed over-guessing so I could get change back and use it for more soda later in the day.

    Hiding the evidence - I'd make sure any trash, wrappings, cans, or evidence of the purchases was tossed before getting home.

    Be self-focused - all of that behavior was about me. It didn't matter if I was literally cutting the grocery budget down for the wife and kids. It didn't matter is they got to enjoy any of the snacks (which they all do too). I wanted what I wanted and I wanted it right now!

    Financial failure - you could say that the hurt to them was minor in comparison, but is reducing the grocery budget secretly really minor? If she has to pull mortgage payment money to pay for groceries because I do these things so often without her and then when I'm with her I beg for more purchases and she gives in to make me happy and we end up behind on the house payment every month.... is that really minor?

    Shame/Guilt - I feel powerless before the desire, give in and do it, then feel guilty afterward.

    Anger/Irritability - the only reason she gives in when we are out and about, even though we're broke, is because I get angry, depressed, frustrated, irritable, mean, and then silent when I can't buy what food/snacks/drinks I want and when. "We need to pay for (insert bill here) and probably shouldn't do that right now," is enough to send me into a full emotional tailspin... which usually get's me to jump tracks and start thinking about the stronger addictions and running back to those.

    In my more rational moments, this all sounds INSANE of course. Dr. Pepper cannot have that much control over your life, can it? But it's not just Dr. Pepper. I do it with Cheeseburgers, or really any opportunity to eat out. And it's come to a point where I think I either need to increase income or reduce expenditures to feed the desire to eat-out whenever I want.

    I can either get a second job, or start a side business, or freelance to earn more.... or I can? There's nothing left to reduce. We've cut out every expense most people pay for, and we're still broke.

    I may be what the AA folks call a "Dry Drunk", meaning that I don't have alcohol but I'm acting like I do.

    And in fact, my mind goes back to alcohol, pills, and more often. I find myself staring at it at the grocery store like it's a life-saving blood transfusion and all I need to do is insert it into my body and I'll be revived.

    So you ask, can Dr. Pepper really be as bad as alcohol? The substance? No. The bent/broken personality built around it? Yes, absolutely.

    DarrellW
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    Tuesday, August 16, 2016

    Best and Worst Leaders I've ever seen...

    I just accepted a new job offer... I can still here "Movin' on up... to the east side..." replaying in my head. During the interviews, the manager asked an intriguing question. It was so interesting, I thought I'd share it with you.

    Q: Without naming names, tell me about the best boss you ever had, and the worst boss you ever had. Tell me what attributes landed them in that category.

    This reminded me of two articles written by Michael Hyatt on that topic:


    I do not recall exactly how I answered that, but I figured I would take this time to think through my career and highlight the best and worst trends across multiple companies and multiple divisions within those companies.

    This list I'm sure is incomplete, but it's what I came up with as I thought about ALL of the experiences I've had. Check out my story after the list for a perfect example of Deaf Leadership.

    The Worst Leaders:


    • Too Sudden: Leader comes into a new department and immediately started making changes without taking the time to understand how those changes would affect the customers or the front-line employee. 
    • Counterproductive: Leader made changes that were actually counter-productive and hurt the department, staff, and customers; all because they didn't take the time to understand the problems before trying to fix them. 
    • Insufficient Data #1: Leader made decisions to start something they thought was right; but the data was insufficient to make that decision. They didn't even know what they didn't know. They should have waited to start that project or change.
    • Insufficient Data #2: Leader made decisions to stop something already in motion before they arrived because they knew they had insufficient data to understand why it was being done. By the time they realized their mistake (9 months later) and corrected, the damage was done, irreparably, to morale, production, and output. Many employees left by the time they fixed it.
    • Insufficient Data #3: Leader relies only on the managers reporting to them for information, and never comes directly to the front line employee. The Mid Managers are more interested in looking good, not upsetting the Leader, or any other number of politics, and no REAL information ever gets up to the Leader.
    • Too Slow: Once a new problem (or a problem created by one of the above) is acknowledged, Leader takes months to make a decision that should have taken days (or weeks at most), exacerbating the problem.
    • Deaf/Doesn't Listen: Leader either doesn't accept any feedback at all (hides behind the Ivory Tower office) or makes excuses instead of accepting feedback openly. 
    • Don't Understand (or try to): Leader just "doesn't get it", no matter how you try to explain it. They assume that they are not feeling the pressure, so the front line employee shouldn't either. But that Leader doesn't have to actually bear the burden they put on the employee. They can't feel the burden, so they don't sympathize.
    • Over Promise/Under Deliver: Leader "Vision Casts" about the grand new world they want to create, and they don't come anywhere near delivering on that vision. Hopes raised and dashed hurt morale more than hopes never raised.
    • Changes Too Fast/Asks Too Much: Every change is an "Ask" of the employee/customer. Making too many changes too fast puts a drain on any good will you created or had when you arrived. If all you ever do is ask, ask more, ask more... and you don't give back in equal or greater amounts, you drain the morale. The sentiment is created: "Enough... no more!" or "What have you done for ME lately?"

    The thing is, in most cases the poor leadership is not a reflection of the person being a "bad person".

    Often times the person is funny, charming, friendly, and a joy to be around... just not to work for.

    I've seen some leadership embody all of these at once, or just some.

    In one instance a quite a few years ago, a new policy was created that increased call volume for the sales department.

    Every last person on the front line could have told the Leader that it was a bad idea, but it was instituted company wide (10,000's of employees) without asking a single one of the people who would take those calls how it would affect them or their customers.

    On the first month, the call volume increased as expected, but sales per call plummeted (as the front line expected). Leaders said: "Give it a chance" over and over like a broken record, as we watched the company plummet into madness.

    By the end of the first quarter, they had to re-set (read 'lower') the standard just to get people to their bonus (because no-body reached it, even the top performers). Customer satisfaction scores plummeted.

    We lost many customer's with high value assets because they were tired of being "tricked" into being transferred to sales, and they went to smaller boutique companies that would treat them like a human and long term relationship (instead of a quick sale).

    It STILL took over 12 months (one year) for the company to realize what a total disaster the program was, and despite that, it still took an executive at the highest level to see that we were literally "wasting" (because it was producing nothing positive in the way of results) 7 million dollars of overtime (in six months) before someone finally said... "Hm... maybe this isn't working after all..."

    Any one of the 10,000's of employees affected could have told them that (and tried to) before it even started.

    The thing is... the best characteristics are essentially the opposite of the worst list.

    Best Leaders:


    • Take Time: Leader comes into a new department and takes time (a lot of time) with each level of employee (front line and Managers) to understand things. Not just a day, or week, but multiple weeks/months. 
    • Solicit Ideas and Feedback: They do open forums, email suggestions, one-on-ones, and they ask, ask, ask, ask, ask for ideas, concerns, problems.... They gather information. They don't evaluate or respond yet, they just gather. 
    • Productive: Leader then uses a long dissection process to evaluate and ask some more and evaluate... Then they ca make informed decisions that will be productive for everyone involved.
    • Morale: Having made the entire staff part of the process, they earned the right to make changes, and make big asks of the team. 
    • Announce when ready: Leader only announces a change when it's firm, final, all kinks are already worked out and it's sure. This eliminates the need to say: "Oh... Um... But not yet."
    • Sufficient Data #1: Leader made decisions with all the right data, so the decision was effective the first time. They knew that they knew what they knew.
    • Sufficient Data #2: Leader let decisions already in motion play out, making just as sure to gather information before stopping something, as the did before starting something. People already in need of those resources would not be frustrated without them for months. 
    • Sufficient Data #3: Leader relies NOT only on the managers reporting to them for information, and but actively and frequently seeks out information from ALL front line employees. Nothing is hidden from them through politicking, and they get REAL and practical information.
    • Act Fast: Once a new problem (or a problem created by the New Leader) is acknowledged, Leader acts fast, knowing that employees are actually MORE inportant that customers, attorney's, or agencies. If the employee is not taken care of, they won't in turn take care of the customer. Problems are then prevented, or lessened. However, less of these occur, because of the prior steps.
    • Listen: Leader actively requests (not just at the start, but on an on-going basis) any and all feedback from the team. Constantly "spot checking" to see if we're on track. Front line employees know about problems miles before their direct managers fully understand it and push it up the chain.
    • Understands (or tries to): Leader understands that they don't have to have that customer on their phone, and and talk them off the ledge, while pushing those buttons. They understand that the pressure they feel is less than the Front Line (at least less urgent). They do everything they can to "really get it". They check for feedback, "I hear you saying... Is that right?"
    • Under Promise/Over Deliver: Leader "Vision Casts" about the grand new world they want to create, ONLY after they have crossed all T's and dotted all I's. Until then, they are asking for ideas and feedback, but it's not time to Vision Cast. Once the vision is cast, they deliver before time and under budget, and with bigger bells and whistles than previously promised.
    • Jab, Jab Jab... Right Hook (affiliate link): As Gary Vaynerchuk so elequently taught us in his book so titled, anyone who asks all the time eventually becomes noise in the background, ignored, or actively avoided. You have to give 10 times for every ask. For the Leader, that means a constant flow, flood, tsunami of praise, celebrations, thank you's (big and small), "what can I do for YOU's?"... ONLY when the floor is full of people who feel like the Leader would walk in front of a train for them, will they they turn around and walk in front of a train for the Leader. 
    Political side note: This is why I could never in good conscience vote for Hillary Clinton or Donald Trump in November 2016. They both scream the bad leader characteristics. It's all about them... their plan, their ego... nothing collaborative about their tone. I'll be voting for Gary Johnson. I hope he wins, but even if he doesn't I can go into 2017 voting for liberty instead of tyranny.
    I'm sure this list is no-where near complete. So let me turn the tables and you can comment below::

    Q: Without naming names, tell me about the best boss you ever had, and the worst boss you ever had. Tell me what attributes landed them in that category.
    Answer in the comments... 

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    Wednesday, August 10, 2016

    Expectations Are Premeditated Disappointments


    As my psychologist dad says, and I paraphrase...

    Expectations Are Premeditated Disappointments

    and...

    Plan Plans Not Outcomes

    I have had in my mind and heart a "way it's supposed to go/be", all my life.

    So far almost exactly NOTHING has every gone the way it was supposed to go, or been the way it was supposed to be.

    As it turns out, I'm a lousy planner of outcomes.

    I'm an idealist, who can tell you what the right principles are, but specific outcomes are only within God's hands, not man's.

    Maybe I do need to die after all... die to self.

    Maybe I need to die to...

    • "I want"
    • "I need"
    • "I desire"
    ... and just, simply, follow His lead.

    But if I do that, if I follow His lead, that will lead me down paths I don't want to go, into situations I don't want to be in... that will take me to a prison after being beaten (Paul & Silas), it will get me thrown into a Lion's den (Daniel)... Sure, they overcame those situations, but not without cost.

    Then again... isn't there a cost to NOT following his lead?

    By the scale of my imaginations for what my life should have been... this life has been a GRAND DISAPPOINTMENT... I imagined I'd be a Ted Dekker by now, or leading a Pixar by now, or something other than struggling to pay bills and working a 9-5.

    But this is where MY planning has gotten me.... one more promotion, one more step up the ladder... that's where my ability to plot and scheme and work my way up has gotten me.

    I'm grateful for the promotion, but I shouldn't even be here... I should be WAY up that mountain by now...

    So maybe the cost of following Him, and there IS a cost, isn't as high as the cost of not following Him (His Plan / His Leading)?

    There's a thought...

    Going to be honest, I've been frustrated with God because of my lack of progress toward those BIG dreams... so I stopped praying actively months ago. Here and there, yes, but actively (daily/more than daily) no.

    God I forgive you for not giving me what I wanted, now please show me what YOU wanted all along?

    Maybe that's a better prayer...

    Darrell



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    Sunday, June 5, 2016

    An out of the box solution to save money for a trip!


    One Yahoo Answers poster asked a question that really got me excited: (here)

    Best way to save money for a trip?

    Need to save $3000 for a trip in about 5 or 6 years. And we'd also like to buy a cheap R.V plus the $3000. I can't do like a fundraiser or anything because it's a personal trip, so...


    Celestine Chua Journey that matters. “It is good to have an end to journey towards, but it is the journey that matters, in the end.” ~ Ursula Le Guin
    Celestine Chua Journey that matters. 


    My Answer(s):

    Good question, and great forethought! Hope you don't mind, but this inspired me so much I'm going to write a post on it for one of my sites too.

    Side Note: Buying an RV could be $10,000-60,000 or more. Just went RV shopping last month. I'd rent one for $3,000; OR, you could crowd fund that purchase too... the rest of what I'm going to say still applies.


    I see this two ways.

    1) You need $6,000 in 5 years (conservatively). 
    5 Years is 60 months. So start putting aside into savings account $100 per month, and you'll have $6,000 in 5 years. Your bank will set it up to auto transfer, or you could do it manually.

    That's without earning interest. You could also put that $100 into the savings until you hit $1,000. Every time you hit $1,000 put that into a CD (something's better than nothing with interest). Make sure that CD matures on or before you GO date. So the first $1,000 will be ten months from now. That CD will need to mature in 4.5 years. The second will need to mature in 3 years, etc. etc.


    2) You actually CAN crowd fund this. 

    There's a lot of ways, friends, family, church, donations... but here's another way.

    2.a) Set up a free blog at Blogger.com. 

    Make it all about this trip and/or travel in general. Put together a Start Here page describing the trip you want to go on, when, where, why, and tell us that this blog is your journal for planning the trip. Tell us if we help you take it, we can come along too (via pitctures, posts, even live events with Skype or Periscope).

    You could set up a proper domain (MyTrip.Com) for $10-12 per year; or, just leave it with the default domain MyTrip.Blogspot.com. Either way.

    2.b) Put together a guide for travelers. 

    Call it "The Top 10 things you need to consider when traveling to..." Just use a Word Doc to put it together, make it pretty, and turn it into a PDF.
    Gumroard let's you choose a Name Your Price option: Use Gumroad to upload the PDF. Link the Gumroad set up to your blog. Then tell people they can help you take the trip by purchasing your guide for $1 or more.

    When the time gets close, you can set up a GoFundMe page, and get the momentum going faster.



      • Go Fund Me: (HERE)

      2.c) In the 4.9 years leading up to your Go Date, write to us. 

      Tell us about your trip. Why you want to go. What you hope to see. Read articles on other sites, research for your trip, and tell us what you learned getting ready for it. Remind us every so often you only have x days/months/years left to go.

      It doesn't have to be daily. You could post weekly, monthly, as often as you research for your trip. It'll help you keep the vision alive, and help us be excited with you.

      2.d) Get our email address, and remind us about the trip by posting new stuff every so often.

      Use the Gadget's tool to make sure you add an Email follow option to the blog. That way we'll get an update every time you post.

      You could probably set all of this up before you go to bed tonight, and start. 

      If you do this, email Me@DarrellWolfe.com if you do this. I'll become your first follower, and maybe you'll be taking your trip before five years.


      By Darrell

      References:


      • Go Fund Me: (HERE)
      • Savings and Interest: (HERE)


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      Friday, May 27, 2016

      Interviews 3 | Know Yourself

      Nosce Te Ipsum - Know Thyself


      This phrase primarily means to know your strengths and weaknesses.
      Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought to. Romans 12:3
      This common phrase doesn’t mean to put yourself down, as some religious folks would have you believe. Rather, it asks that you know who you are and who you aren’t. 

      Know the gifting(s) God has placed inside of you and also what he hasn’t called you to. By doing so you are able to narrow down the position that fit you and those that do not.

      Know your strengths

      You have been given strengths and giftings by God. He has enabled you to be particularly good at certain things. If you know what those strengths are then you can boldly assert what they are and be confident in your answers.

      If you are not sure what your strengths and giftings are, check out another article I wrote called "Discovery | Finding Your Place In God's Plan".

      Maybe you are strong at something but not as strong as you want to say you are. Don’t be tempted to overstate your strengths. If you are hired into a position for stating you are stronger at something than you are it will be found out quickly.

      Know your areas of opportunity


      Humility isn’t about putting yourself down. It’s about knowing what you can and can’t do, and being honest about both.

      You have areas that you are growing in.

      • There are things that you aren’t good at. Nobody is good at everything. 
      • There are things that you are good at, but you don't enjoy. That's important to know too.
      • Some areas you will be strong in at a future date, but you just aren’t there yet. 

      If you know these areas of opportunity and are strategically honest about them you will either know to avoid certain positions, or you will be able to communicate how these areas are not dis-qualifiers to your new desired position.

      Example: I talk a lot.
      That makes me a GREAT writer and blogger. When I was given assignments to write 500 words about something, I didn’t struggle to get up to 500 words, I struggled to get back DOWN to 500 words and edit out the un-necessary. 
      This meant that as a call center rep I often struggled with handle time. They wanted my average calls to come to 255 seconds or less. I was always pushing over 300-350, on a good day. After I left they actually raised the goal to 300, oh well…

      Interviewers may ask what my weakness are (Areas of Opportunity). This isn't as common these days, but the question is still out there. Sell yourself by showing that you know your areas of opportunity, and you are actively working on them.

      I could tell the interviewer that: I talk too much and can’t seem to figure out how to lower it… that doesn’t quite sell my opportunity.
      OR
      I could tell the interviewer that: I enjoy meeting new people and getting to know them. I am honestly interested in people and want their best interest. I also have a strong desire to have things done right and not half done. As a result I sometimes take longer on calls than my counterparts. I am actively working on finding ways to say less, not ask certain questions that open the conversation up or encourage long stories. I'm also working on asking more direct questions that allow me to build rapport and enjoy the interaction, without taking a long time to do it.
      One highlights weakness and one highlights area of opportunity.


      The important questions:


      Answer these questions for yourself so that you can articulate it to the interviewer:

      • How am I the BEST fit for this position? 
      • How am I going to add value to this company, department, or team?

      I am a great fit for this position because…
      I am a great fit for this position because I have 4 years of background in banking related sales. I have sold in person and over the phone. I know my customers and ask great questions. I am not only able to meet their needs with the best products and services but I am able to uncover other needs they didn’t realize they had. 
      Just the other day someone came in to order checks and I was able to uncover for her that her mortgage rate was 7% and current rates are in the low 4% range. She was hooked up with my mortgage partner and refinanced into a 4.32%. It dropped her monthly payment and will cut years off of her loan. She was ecstatic!

      Homework Assignment:

      • List for yourself your top 3 areas of strength and top 3 areas of opportunity. 
      • Practice talking to yourself or a training partner about these 6 areas.



      See Also:

      Darrell Wolfe, Topos Consultant
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      Interviews 2 | Know the Job Description

      Knowing the Position, Title, and Job Description are key

      You must know the position for which you are applying.

      Applying for a position and then declining it can begin to look bad for you if you do it over and over with the same company. You will look like a flake. 

      Many times the employers don’t make this easy. They post job descriptions but not salary levels and you are left to fend for yourself asking: “Is this a fit for me?"

      Where do you start?

      Narrow Your Search

      If you know what you are looking for in a job, then you will be able to weed through the countless job offers on the internet and in the newspaper more easily.

      You can spend your time pushing for the jobs you really want and not wasting your time on interviews for positions you won’t enjoy.

      Research

      Take time to research the positions you apply for, before applying.

      If you are not sure that you are a great fit, find out first (or at least develop an educated guess). There are so many tools on the internet now for understanding job descriptions and fields.

      Take some time to research the Job Description. Look for key words, required, preferred skills, and job duties. Try to determine if you have these skills from another job. It's always important that you had the job title previously, just the skill.

      For example, you may see a Job Description that requires 2 years compliance experience. You've never worked in the that job title, but have you had any duties that required you to be exposed to, in charge of, or relating to compliance to company rules and regulations. Every team lead has had to be aware of the regulations, and ensure their teams are in compliance.

      Then tailor you resume to the job description. 


      Put that experience in your resume, and talk to it in the interviews.

      The resume will not only help you when you meet the recruiters and interviewers; but, it will help you get past the screeners. If your resume doesn't open the screeners door, your interview skills won't have a chance to be used.


      Network

      Get to know people within the field (in person or through social sites like Linked In).

      Ask questions, people love to talk about themselves and what they do. Do you have any friends or contacts in that field, or better yet in that company? Ask questions. Introduce yourself to the managers at the company if possible.

      If it’s a large company that has multiple offices don’t be afraid to just walk into one of the branches, even if it’s not the one you are thinking of working at, and introduce yourself to the manager, ask them if you could have a few minutes of their time.

      Tell them that you are thinking of coming to work for the company and that you are interested in finding out more about the inner working and what it takes.

      Ask Good Questions


      • What does the day in the life of an employee of XYZ look like? 
      • What attributes make a great employee in your field? 
      • What things do people often struggle with as they first come on board? 

      Think through the places you’ve worked, what you liked and didn’t like. Ask questions that will help you understand if this is a place you want to work.

      I realized recently that I prefer a company that follows a modern model for vacation, where all the hours are lumped into one box and you use them as you see fit.

      I was quite put out upon working for a company that still separated personal vs vacation vs sick time and punished you for using sick time when they offered it and wouldn’t let you use it for anything else or pay you out if you didn’t use it. This felt to me very double minded. I chose to leave that company and go back to a company that had a more straight forward way of dealing with time off.

      You may have things about your personality that won’t fit certain companies or departments within a company.

      It would be best for you do know before you formally apply or interview that the company fits in your “Must Have’s” and “Must Not Haves‘”.


      Details

      After you have determined that the company and position fits you, learn details about the position. Learn the shop talk. Find out terms that are used within the industry or field.

      The more you know about the position, and the more you know about how you can fit the position, the better. You should be able to personally relate the skills and personality traits you posses to the position.


      See Also:

      Darrell Wolfe, Topos Consultant
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